The following are synonyms for offend: anger, annoy, antagonize, disgust, distress, disturb, exasperate, fret, hurt, irritate, nauseate, outrage, pain, provoke, repel, repulse, rile, shock, sicken, sin, slight, slur, snub, sting, transgress, trespass, upset, vex, wound.
One thing for certain that in this life on earth we will both offend people and we will be offended by people. Our job as Christians is to forgive people within ourselves who do end up offending us even if they don’t openly seek forgiveness. On the other hand, we must try our best not to offend others, but if we do we are to seek forgiveness.
Woe to the world because of offenses! For offenses must come, but woe to that man by whom the offense comes! (Matthew 18:7)
As I close in on 70 years of age, I believe that the number one detriment to Christians is lack of forgiveness toward those who have offended them (or think they have been offended by them). The real heart of the problem is that these Christians never died to self, picked up their cross, and allowed themselves to be crucified with Christ. Their world centers around them and they never learned to forsake all for Christ.
Even though I considered myself a devout follower of Jesus Christ for closing in on 50 years, I never experienced total freedom until I learned to forgive those who offended me in my life and to love my enemies, to forgive them even if they never sought forgiveness, and to pray for them. It was a real challenge trying to bring to remembrance all those who offended me in my life who I never forgave. I literally spent days in prayer, forgiving those who have offended me in my life, then lifting them up in prayer. It was the most refreshing thing I ever did in my life. It brought a healing to my soul that is indescribable.
I have put together a Scriptural journey that is filled with tough verses. It is not your typical ‘feel good’ promises of God to bless you. One thing I can guarantee you is that the verses below will give you a spiritual freedom that surpasses anything the world has to offer. They will free you from the bait of Satan who wants to destroy you with bitterness, resentment, lack of forgiveness, and everything else that goes along with it to bind you.
INSTRUCTIONS FOR US TO TAKE TO HEART
Philippians 2:3-4
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
2 Corinthians 13:5
Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test!
Psalm 139:23-24
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!
Romans 12:14-21
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Matthew 6:12
Forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.
Colossians 3:12-13
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Matthew 17:27
However, not to give offense to them, go to the sea and cast a hook and take the first fish that comes up, and when you open its mouth you will find a shekel. Take that and give it to them for Me and for yourself.”
Matthew 7:13-14
“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.”
MOST SOBERING VERSES IN THE BIBLE
Matthew 6:14-15
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 7:21-23
“Not everyone who calls out to Me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of My Father in heaven will enter. On judgment day many will say to Me, ‘Lord! Lord! We prophesied in Your name and cast out demons in Your name and performed many miracles in Your name.’ But I will reply, ‘I never knew you. Get away from Me, you who break God’s laws.’”
Matthew 10:33-37
“Whoever denies Me before men, I also will deny before My Father who is in heaven. Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person’s enemies will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.”
Mark 9:47-48 ESV
“If your eye causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell, ‘where their worm does not die and the fire is not quenched.’”
DYING TO SELF
John 12:24
Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.
Mark 8:35
For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for My sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.
Colossians 3:3
For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.
Luke 22:42
“Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from Me. Nevertheless, not My will, but Yours, be done.”
1 Corinthians 15:31
I affirm, by the boasting in you which I have in Christ Jesus our Lord, I die daily.
Philippians 1:21
For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
TAKING UP YOUR CROSS
Luke 9:23
And He said to them all, If any man will come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.
Matthew 10:38
And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after Me, is not worthy of Me.
BEING CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST
Galatians 2:20
I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave Himself for me.
Galatians 5:24
And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
Romans 6:1-12
What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? We were buried therefore with Him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life. For if we have been united with Him in a death like His, we shall certainly be united with Him in a resurrection like His. We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. For one who has died has been set free from sin. Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with Him. We know that Christ, being raised from the dead, will never die again; death no longer has dominion over Him. For the death He died He died to sin, once for all, but the life He lives He lives to God. So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions.
Philippians 2:1-8
So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though He was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
1 Peter 2:24
Who His own self bare our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed.
1 Peter 4:1-2
Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves with the same way of thinking, for whoever has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, so as to live for the rest of the time in the flesh no longer for human passions but for the will of God.
Romans 12:1
I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.
FORSAKING ALL
Luke 9:62
Jesus said to him, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God.”
Luke 14:33
“So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be My disciple.”
Matthew 10:34-39
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person’s enemies will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And whoever does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
BE NOT OF THIS WORLD
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
1 John 2:15-17
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.
1 Corinthians 1:26-31
For consider your calling, brothers: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God. And because of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, righteousness and sanctification and redemption, so that, as it is written, “Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.”
Here is a life changing prayer I will leave you with:
Heavenly Father, I come to you in Jesus’ name. Forgive me of all my sins and unrighteousness. I forgive all those who have offended me throughout the years. I pray that you bless them. If I offended anyone throughout the years, may they forgive me. If I need to get anything right with anyone, show me and open up the doors. Give me a new perspective concerning offenses, and may I live in freedom, not harboring anything against anyone, nor may they harbor anything concerning me. If anyone has harmed me, help me to be merciful and do good to them. Help me not to be a prisoner of hate. Help me to get along with everyone to the best of my ability. Give me wisdom on how to navigate difficult people. Help me to humble myself and count others more significant than myself. Help me to deny myself, to be crucified with Christ, and to pick up my cross and follow Jesus. Help me to truly examine myself to make sure I am in the faith. Search me, oh Lord, to see if there be any grievous way in me. Help me to forsake all for You, Lord Jesus. Help me not to be of this world. Rather, may I be busy storing up riches in Heaven. Help me to be Kingdom minded and use every opportunity in boldness to preach the Gospel. Help me to proclaim grace even in the midst of persecution. Amen.